The World's Biggest Social Experiment - Pear Ring
We all know that dating apps aren't exactly operating with the intention of making connections. They're there to keep you swiping on their platforms by offering an almost unlimited amount of partner options, giving you the boost of dopamine to keep you coming back for more. Every time you get a "like" or are matched with someone, your brain is rewarded with some feel-good chemicals that have you tricked into thinking you're doing something good for yourself, when in reality you're receiving a false reward for something that's really not worth the time.
For most of us, I think the intention when signing up for the app is to find a partner or at the very least a hookup but it often becomes a way to fend off boredom. Swiping when we feel we have nothing better to do and if you are swiping with intention and have for some time, let me ask you, how many of those "swipes" lead to something off the app?
Even when you're matched with someone there's no guarantee you'll take it to the streets for a date when most connections are just an en exchange of a few messages before you or the other person gets bored or finds something you/they like better. It's sad really.
When you take into account and get honest with yourself on how much time is wasted on them for no real reward it leads to an emotion that has us feeling less-than. You start to wonder if it's you or your profile that doesn't get you what you seek. Let me tell you, it's not you. It's the apps. They want to keep you engaged so they have metrics to bring back to investors and their team that prove they're doing something and making money. They don't have the real intention of pairing you with a partner or even a date for that matter.
That's where the Pear Ring is different.
Think about it. Married couples wear rings so that it's obvious they're taken so why can't singles have a ring that lets others know they're available?
It's called the biggest social experiment of our time and I'm excited to try it. A friend of mine and I went ahead and placed an order and are excited to give it a go. Not only do you get a ring that lets people know you're open to conversation and a possible date, they offer a community and singles events like none other.
Real-life connection is the goal. Anyone I've talked to about how they prefer to meet a potential has always said: "in-person". You know, like the olden days. When you strike up a conversation while you're out and about, you know immediately if there's some chemistry to build off of. It's something dating apps can't offer because we often don't know what's on the other side of the screen. Even if the messages are intriguing, who's to say that when or if, and that's a big if, that when you meet IRL that there's something there. Maybe they know how to engage via text but in person, they're not quite what you had hoped. Or at worst, they're not even the person in the profile, otherwise known as a catfish.
Well put it this way, if 1.2 billion singles around the world wore a little green ring on their finger to show they’re single, we wouldn't need dating apps. IRL connection is the mission.
I'll be keeping you posted on my dating adventures once I start getting out there with my ring and I hope I have some inspiring stories to keep you engaged and possibly trying it for yourself.
It's time we start putting the phones done, deleting the apps, and finding real connections out in the real world.
* This is not a paid post and I'm in no way making money for the Pear Ring. I just believe in the concept and am tired of wasting time on fake connections without the same intentions.